She doesn’t have to write the words “key role” in a letter for you to realize that things are going downhill in a relationship. There are generally three very obvious signs that every man should recognize:
1) She stops calling
Most women love attention and love it when men compliment them, look at them, ask them out. Women also love calling their boyfriends or husbands (and love receiving phone calls) because it gives them a chance to, wait for it, have attention paid to them. Most couples I know are in daily contact with each other, no matter where they are in the world. A lot of married couples call each other at work, either to check up on each other or out of boredom.
Suddenly one day, she stops calling. Very gradually you realize that the phone doesn’t ring quite as often, until one day it almost never does. This is a big sign. If a woman stops calling you, it is because she feels she doesn’t need to make the time or effort to call. When a woman is in love, she will bend over backwards for her man. When she isn’t — well, she just doesn’t think about you much. Ouch.
2) She stops caring and stops acting jealous
After a woman stops calling you, more of her behavior starts to change. Most women are at least a tad jealous by nature. Most women deny it, but it’s true. Women don’t want to share their men with anyone, so they do what’s necessary to keep them happy (including, but not limited to, oral sex, housework, cooking your favorite foods, tolerating your friends and family, and watching sports with you).
So when your girlfriend or wife suddenly stops acting jealous or no longer does things for you, watch out. When she stops asking about your day or getting mad at you for looking at other women, start counting the days. She’s not in love with you anymore.
3) Do you want to go to the movies?
The third sign that things are going badly is actually pretty simple. If you go to the movies every time you go out with your partner, this is another sign. Being at a movie theater is a great excuse to spend time together without actually having to say a word to one another.
If a woman says “Why don’t we just go see a movie?” every time you want to go out, she is really saying “I don’t want to spend time with you, especially in public, because I think you’re boring.”
Sorry fellas — it’s true. Movie dates do not true love make. Suggest something different, and if she insists she absolutely has to see the new Ryan Gosling movie, well, Ryan Gosling can have her, because you should be long gone.
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By: Heide Muller