Some days ago, I went out for drinks with a
colleague. Right beside our table, was a group
of girls in their twenties? One of the girls
was lamenting to her friends about how some
guy would not take no for an answer;
bombarding her with calls and wanting to
So, to save guys the trouble and girls, the nuisance, here are seven tell-tale signs that help guys know when to back off.
1. SHE IGNORES YOUR CALLS: This is the number
one bummer. This was the first answer I was
given by most ladies. You think because she
gave you her number when you asked for it
means she likes you or would pick up your
calls. Think again! If all the time you call, she
never picks up, maybe you should consider
looking for another babe.
2. SHE GIVES YOU THE I’LL-CALL-YOU-BACK FLIP-
OFF: This is very common. If she tells you each
time you call her, “Tunde I’m so sorry, I am
in the middle of something. I would call you
back in five minutes” and then doesn’t, she
probably never will. So, don’t wait around for
3. SHE’S ALWAYS BUSY/”POSTING” YOU: Okay,
now you have her number and she eventually
picks up. Then the moment you ask to see
her, she tells you a million and one things she
has to do: “My brother is sick, I have to stay
home with him.” “I already have plans to
hang out with my girlfriends. We’ll see
tomorrow.” Trust me, she is probably home
watching a Vin Diesel movie and eating
popcorn. If this consistently happens, this is a
sign. Brother, move on!
4. SHE SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFREIND: Sometimes,
this is false, guys. She may not actually be
dating anyone and would just tell you this, so
you can get off her back. Some even go as far
as saying they are gay. Although this doesn’t
stop some determined guys. For these guys,
keep on chasing, God is in control of the
5. SHE IS MATERIALISTIC: I found this answer
rather hilarious. One of the ladies I
interviewed said, “Its very easy, just demand
loads of things from him, he would run
away”. Today, it is her hair, tomorrow, it’s a
car. Guys, a little expo, she might not actually
be this kind of person. She just does not care
about you and wants to discard you. So
Romeo, look for your Juliet somewhere else.
6. SHE PREFERS DATES IN PUBLIC PLACES: This is
another sign. Every time you keep asking her
out on dates or ask her to have dinner at your
house, she looks for ways to shy away. She
does not want to be trapped in an
uncomfortable position where it would only
be the two of you. No matter how hard you
try, she would avoid intimate lunches or
dinners. She might even bring her friend
along. We all know guys hate this.
7. FREINDZONE: I had to save the best for last.
This is very common among the ladies. You
like this girl so much and next thing you
know, she introduces you as her friend, or
even tells you things like, “Tolu, I value our
friendship and don’t want to lose you as a
good friend”. Mister, I’m sorry to say, but you
have been “friend zoned”. This one dey pain!
Most guys like to ignore these signs because
they feel she is just playing hard to get.
Sometimes guys, this is not the case. She is
just not that into you.
BY Chinenye Ugonna