When your heart is broken, it can feel like
the end of the world. No amount of pain
has ever felt so agonizing or concentrated.
It’s like a giant hole was pummeled into
your chest, with no hope of repair.
You cry, you scream, you watch Netflix
until you’ve seen every documentary your
subscription has to offer and yet nothing
seems to smooth your heartbreak or soothe
the longing you feel.
True Story: Breakups are a bitch, and
heartbreak is a bigger bitch than f*cking
I think I can say with pretty solid
confidence, most people would rather get
smacked in the face with a metal pole than
get their hearts broken. It’s why we try to
Our bodies literally repel being
dumped because there’s no greater pain
than heartbreak. The struggle is just so
real, and the risks we take by falling in
love are innumerable and terrifying.
The thing is, a breakup is really, really
f*cking bad for your health. You might
think it’s all in your head, but it’s not. You
truly are experiencing an illness.
Here are eight scientific things that
happen to your body when you have a
broken heart, proving it’s just about the
worst thing in world.
When you get viciously dumped, it can feel
like someone has punched you in the
stomach, knocking all the wind out of you.
It can be consuming, as if your entire body
were suddenly in Rigamortis. Guess what?
While nothing has physically been done to
you, your brain literally is telling your body
the pain is real.
As Naomi Eisenbuerger, Ph.D., and assistant
professor of psychology at the University of
California at Los Angels told Women’s
Health Magazine , the area of your brain
that lights up when you’re hurt physically
is the same area that lights up when you
suffer “social rejection.”
So, when we say heartbreak “hurts like
hell,” you know it actually hurts.
Having your heart broken can go one of
two ways: you either binge-eat or eat
It’s all about how you cope with sadness.
Some people eat their feelings, using food
as a distraction and a comfort while they
cry their hearts out, watching an endless
stream of Lifetime movies. Others are so
racked with anxiety, they can’t even think
about eating; food becomes disgusting and
For some, heartbreak can be the most
fabulously unhealthy diet known to man.
As Women’s Health Magazine explains,
when you’re in love, your brain is
inundated with the neurochemicals
dopamine and oxytocin, making you
experience feelings of happiness and
pleasure. After all, love is more addicting
than drugs, according to science .
When you get your heart broken, though,
all those lovey-dovey chemicals wash right
out of your system, leaving you victim to
stress hormones. Your brain pumps your
body full of cortisol and epinephrine.
An overabundance of cortisol tells
your brain to send too much blood to
your muscles, causing them to tense
up, ostensibly for swift action. But
you’re not leaping anywhere, and as
a result you’re plagued with swollen
muscles causing headaches, a stiff
neck and an awful squeezing
sensation in your chest.
The verdict? Heartbreak is really f*cking
bad for you.
Though this one might be obvious, but
studies have actually proven heartbreak
does cause depression. According to
Psychology Today, researchers at Virginia
Commonwealth University studied 7,000
male and female twins and analyzed their
levels of depression and anxiety based on
traumatic experiences in their lives.
The research found “losses that involved
lower self-esteem were twice as likely to
trigger depression as ones that involved loss
alone.” Read: Getting rejected by your
boyfriend or girlfriend is the greatest self-
esteem hit of them all.
As I mentioned before, love is just as
addicting as drugs, specifically cocaine.
When you’re a cocaine addict cut off from
the drug, your body goes through
withdrawal. The same thing happens when
you’re addicted to love and suddenly find
yourself without it.
According to The Frisky , “areas of the brain
are much more active after seeing the
image of the ex. These same active areas
are also afire in cocaine addicts who are
experiencing physical pain while going
Luckily, like the withdrawal you experience
from drugs, eventually the symptoms will
subside and you can get on with your new,
single life. It’ll be better, I promise.
Doctors say after a terrible breakup, you
can question your identity. According to
Erica Slotter , a psychology Ph.D. candidate
at Northwestern University, “We know that
relationships change the way we think
about ourselves. When a relationship ends,
that sense of self ends.”
Breakups can provoke existential crises.
When we’re brutally broken up with, we’re
left questioning who we are because we’re
not sure how this could have happened to
us. Aren’t I lovable? Wasn’t that person
The One? Now you’re forced into a new
phase of life, you’ll have to figure out just
what kind of person you want to be moving
Sorry to be the bearer of possibly the worst
news known to man, but research from
Brown University has found if you
experience a breakup, the likeliness of a
second breakup increases by 75 percent. I
know this is the last thing you want to hear
right now, but it’s the truth.
When you go through a breakup, the only
thing you want to do is be alone. Instead,
you need to get those dopamine levels up,
stat. The best way to do this is by going out
and doing some of the activities you love to
do, like activities that bring you joy.
It may seem like the most unappealing
thing in the world when you’re miserable
and just want to cuddle up to a pint of Ben
and Jerry’s and finish off your pathetic list
of ways to get him back, but if you want
your body to heal, you need to GTFO of the
house and do sh*t.
Even if you choose to go on a bender , it can
be good for the soul. Becoming a hermit
crab is only going to prolong and agitate
your broken-heart syndromes.
by: Elite daily