Life Talk


You know all this friends of yours who you don’t know what is wrong with them, sometimes you feel like you are the wrong person, other times you don’t know how to handle them or rather how to place them in your life. You are not sure if they are your friend neither are you convinced they are your foes. They are bitter towards you at a point and the other time they are so friendly with you, that you wonder what you can do without them.

This often gets you confused. I will be discussing on how to spot toxicity among colleagues and how to handle it in a way that will not affect you neither them.

1. At work.
You know those set of people who gives you a slight smile at every minutes you mistakenly gaze at them, they are always in the middle of stopping a conversation once you set your feet into your working place, they are always trying to give a point to side line your point during a discussion they are aware might about a promotion for you, sometimes they are aware you are very right about the point you lay down.
They would rather wait for you to go to lunch and the first question they ask is how much will your lunch cost? Most time they don’t ask directly, they say things like “can I pay for you when they definitely know you won’t allow them to.
Those one who will always want to know what happens any time the company’s stock holder had a meeting with you, those one who always want to the prize of everything you put on.
Check their level of toxicity… It is definitely very high.
The best thing to do to them is let them know and put them in prayer.

2. In school
They are those friends of yours who always want to know your score in every test or examination, some of them go as far as asking about your cgp. They can even be so toxic to the point of asking you how much you have in your account, they are the one who will tell you ” you were not in school yesterday and your presence was missed like we were going to die” they do all this in a ridiculous manner.
Stay away from them if you can or better still stay around your clique of friends regularly.

3. In church
They are those types of people who have problem with whatever you were to church every Sunday service neither can you escape their judgemental eye during week day services. They call you to know if you will be in church and they end the call with ” of course I know you won’t come, I just want to justify that fact”
The fact that you won’t come!

They have problem with you not covering your head to church, in fact most of them have problem with you doing your job perfectly OK in what ever department you find your self at church.

4. In the neighborhood.

A friend of mine once told me how she gets so confused about this young man in her neighborhood, he seems to have problems with virtually everything she does.
They are the one you sight Every instance some problem arise in the residence. They are not there to support, align against you neither are they there to support your opponent but they are there to let you know they were there in the days of your distress. Lol, They do not want to be associated with you neither do they want to be around you.

5. In the family.

They are the one who shows you so much love whenever your parents are around but in the absence of your parents, they have conversations like “your mum and dad has spoilt you so much! They didn’t even teach you any forms of manners ”
They buy you the best gifts just to be pleased by your parent but you are treated in a way much more different from how they treat you once your parent absent themselves away from home.
All those set of people can either be pleased by tolerating them or you can choose to do the very easy one which is staying away from them.

Written by
Temi Badmus

Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus is a Food scientist and an Art enthusiast. Her desire is to give a listening ear to people and to give an opportunity for everyone to be heard. Has any one told you that you are special? Yes, you are. You were beautifully designed, you are relevant to this generation and very special to me. Connect with me on LinkedIn


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