1. I have  failed in relationships and became the perfect date for only those who worth  it.

Most time our troubles teach us the most valuable lesson and that’s the only way to learn it – through suffering and pain! Hear what this guy has to share: “It took me a long time to arrive where I am now. I had many frustrating experiences to teach me this: not every woman is good for me and I have to know who I need in life. That’s a very important lesson. However, many of my dates have also taught me that I may not be the best man to date. That’s a very unpleasant revelation for a guy. However, the failed relationships taught me many things about ME and now I know the truth and can share it with others. That’s what it takes to be the perfect date for women.


1. Accept the difference Perfect match is not someone too similar to you.


Soon he would be bored with you and vice versa. Difference is good, after all. You do not have to like all the things he likes to be his perfect date. The key is not to fight over the differences, but to accept and enjoy them.


2. I am not sorry I used to say often:


I am sorry to call or to bother you, etc. I was bold enough to speak out my mind openly and be myself but the cost is they would not understand. What the failed relations taught me is this: I am not sorry! I have no reason to be sorry to be myself or to take space in life, in the environment or her life. There is no need to apologize for being there to be a good date.


3. Trust if you can:


This is the building block of good relationship even as a friend. Trust is real important for any relationship. How do you know the relations have failed you? You have a reason to mistrust! You have to be a trustworthy mate for him and he – for you. Trust as long and as much as you can, but… once you get the reason to suspect, stop believing.

4. Allow spacing:


If you become the center of her world, or she becomes yours, it may end up as a tragedy. What if you leave? What if you fall for someone else or just realize she is not the one? If she has nothing else in her life, be prepared for stalking and pain, a lot of pain. The same goes for you. When you start dating or even marry, maintain your own life. Have other interests in life and hobbies. If she leaves or dies, the world will not crumble!


5. Understanding:

In every relationship after trust you should try and understand one another. There must be reason for all actions but if understanding is lost trust will eventually crumble with time.


6. Third parties in relationship:


This is a catastrophe that has make some relationship crumble! When she relate information that she need not to pass on to her friends then series of advice will be issued and will make her faith shaken towards you, series of thought will pop up, like does he really meant all he has been saying? Hope he did not have another  girl? Same goes to me when your own best friend is not helping you only to find out he makes your relationship crumbles. So I now have to learn on involving third parties in my relationship.




No  matter what and how many time you sacrifice for him or her it might worth it to you but she or he might not know it. So sacrifice in relationship is a necessity not a compulsory until you find out it worth it like it will lead to marriage.


These seven things I have learned from the failed relationships and they qualify me to be the best date ever! And to find the best date for myself. Let your sorrows teach you a lesson.”

Smart Sketcher ®

Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus is a Food scientist and an Art enthusiast. Her desire is to give a listening ear to people and to give an opportunity for everyone to be heard. Has any one told you that you are special? Yes, you are. You were beautifully designed, you are relevant to this generation and very special to me.

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