Men aren’t exactly known for being forthcoming, they have secrets, let do some exposure of those secrets.
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Today, I will be writing on a subject which is crucial to our growing community, but massive number of us do not take it as important. Drop your comment on what you think.
There’s the stereotype of the stoic cowboy or the tough, quiet manly-man, but the reality is that, more often than not, men aren’t raised to express their feelings. They were raised to act like they ain’t hurt when they are hurt, unlike we ladies, most of us were raised to express our emotion if we need to, while men were raised to conceal it, don’t let it show or consume them.

They’re told to suck it up, keep it together, lock it down.

And, while that might make them seem cool and strong to some, what is also means is this — Your man has thinga he would love to share or be weak for bit he can’t share or show his weakness about them… That make them his secrets, your making has secrets. (He does.)

Your man has a vivid internal life that he does not share with others.

That doesn’t apply to EVERY man, of course. Some men never stop talking about their inner selves.

But it’s really, really common for men to learn the value of keeping things to themselves at an early age.

They can be small things (“That skirt makes you look like the librarian in Ghostbusters ”) or big things (“I don’t want to die alone”).

Regardless, most men do have a running list of secrets that they don’t really want to admit to anyone, especially someone they’re falling in love with .

I will be discussing about five top secret of men, they are very good at hiding it.

1. He’s insecure about his body.

He is. Even if he looks like David Beckham .

Men might not always pay attention to their personal hygiene, but that doesn’t mean that he’s not hyper-sensitive about every love handle , wrinkle, or graying hair on his body.

He might wear the same hoodie every day, but he still worries that he’s not as pretty as he once was. Have you ever wonder why some of them hit the gym so hard!? Well, this is one of the reason.

2. He doesn’t have anyone to talk to.

Male friendships are decidedly different than female friendships.

One of the biggest differences is that, typically, men don’t use their friends as a sounding board for what’s going on in their lives. They might discuss vacation plans, TV shows, or how things are going at work, but way too often, men don’t feel comfortable talking with their buddies about life, death, anxiety, fear, and everything in between.

And that’s a shame. It’s a lonely shame.

Keep that in mind the next time your man is struggling to discuss the BIG issues with you. He doesn’t get a lot of practice. He doesn’t see talking to people about his crucial problems as subject which is acceptable to the society, you need to make him trust you to a very large extent before you can earn that.

3. He likes The Gilmore Girls.

He does. It’s smart, funny, well-acted.

But there’s WAY more of a social stigma of him being a Gilmore Guy than you being into Sons of Anarchy, so maybe that’s why he doesn’t always advertise that he’s on #TeamJess.

4. No one compliments him.

Every lady wants her man to say she’s pretty, but the bad thing is men hardly get the chance to be complimented, except the girly kind of guys get real compliments most time.

Men get a lot of validation in school and office settings, but there isn’t really a culture that supports men receiving casual compliments from their peers.

Are you mad that your man didn’t notice your new jeans? When was the last time you noticed his new shirt? Or the last time you told him that he looked great when it wasn’t a special occasion?

Men need the same kind of validation that women need — they’re just not good at asking for it.

5. He doesn’t know what he’s doing during sex.

Oh my goodness, men are creature whose mind is blank during sex! He doesn’t really know what he wants as far the fluid is still hanging in there.

He doesn’t. He’s making it up as he goes. And there’s some pressure there because maintaining an erection isn’t always the easiest thing to do.

Even if the spirit is willing, the flesh can be weak, and that’s a soul-crushingly embarrassing thing to have happen during the throes of passion. (He can’t help it.)
He can’t help make a decision that will favour you or himself, he just needs to let it out!

Written by :
Temi Badmus

Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus is a Food scientist and an Art enthusiast. Her desire is to give a listening ear to people and to give an opportunity for everyone to be heard. Has any one told you that you are special? Yes, you are. You were beautifully designed, you are relevant to this generation and very special to me. Connect with me on LinkedIn

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