How to Help When Friends or Family are Depressed

Depression: How to Help When Friends or Family are Depressed
When someone you know is depressed, it’s understandable if you feel helpless. If you’ve never suffered from clinical depression, how are you going to know what to say and do, or how it feels?
Ways to Help a Depressed Person
Listen . Keep in mind that the depressed person isn’t communicating well right now, and is probably speaking slower and less clearly. Be patient and don’t interrupt.
Take care of little tasks like feeding the cat or doing the laundry. (This suggestion applies if you don’t live with the person. If you do live with the person, you probably have to take on all the tasks).
Along those lines, remember that the depressed person is not being lazy. Think of when you’re really sick and you can barely get out of bed to go to the bathroom. That’s how a depressive can feel all the time .
Learn everything you can about depression. Knowledge is power and understanding.
Take it seriously if the person talks about suicide. Call their doctor for advice on what to do. Before that, questions you want to ask that will help the doctor determine the severity of the suicidal thoughts and feelings are:
Are you thinking about dying?
Are you thinking about hurting yourself?
Are you thinking about suicide?
Have you thought about how you would do it?
Do you know when you would do it?
Do you have the means to do it?
Encourage the individual to get professional help for depression if he or she is resisting.
If the individual has already started treatment, make sure the depressive is keeping doctor appointments and taking his or her medication.
Ways to Help Yourself
Take care of yourself. Depression can be “contagious.” Get out and do something for yourself alone.
Recognize that your feelings of anger, frustration and helplessness are valid. Talk to a therapist for help in dealing with them.
If you are in a sexual relationship with this person, don’t take it personally if they have lost interest in sex. Sexual drive is one of the first things to go when you’re depressed. Offer hugging and cuddling without an expectation of sex.
Know when to let go. After a certain point, especially if the depressed person is not getting help or taking their medicine, there’s nothing you can do. You have to move on with your own life.
From: depression articles since 1995.

Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus
Temi Badmus is a Food scientist and an Art enthusiast. Her desire is to give a listening ear to people and to give an opportunity for everyone to be heard. Has any one told you that you are special? Yes, you are. You were beautifully designed, you are relevant to this generation and very special to me. Connect with me on LinkedIn

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