Parents goes through a lot while trying to bring their kids up, the process of feeding, clothing, meeting our emotional needs and others can be so consuming. When two mature people decides to spend the rest of their lives together, there has to being something they saw in each other, which of course made them feel they can survive around themselves till forever.
So in this article, I will be discussing about parent’s forms of argument you should not meddle in OR try to be the cause for it to occur.
It’s natural that, the kids causes some arguments between parents at times, but some certain argument can be avoided when you decided to just mind your business and let them fix things themselves.
1. Don’t try settle a cheat arguments.
A lot of us are scared of ever seeing our parents broken or hurt, sometimes it is even more unforgivable when we find out that they are hurting each other,. Marriage is mixed with hurts, love, fun, and happiness. They have to go through the difficult moments alone, they found each other alone, no third party was available then, so don’t make yourself a third party in their marriage affairs.
If you find out any of your parent is cheating, the first best thing you can do is pray for him or her to change, it is not any of your right to disclose it to the other partner, your responsibility as a child is never to help your parent keep their marriage, your responsibility as a child is to let them know you believe in them to keep the marriage despite all odds.
2. Favoritism .
This is one special way grown up kids destroys parent’s relationship.
And most times, it is the man who suffers more from these side. Grown up kids want to tell their mothers about whatever they intend to buy for their father, in most worst scenario, the father will ask for something and they end up asking the mother what type they should buy after the father has made mention of what he wants, you want to get him the best because you believe his wife “your mum knows him better ” how about you just buying him what he wants, your mum will definitely let him know you asked her “it a woman thing, we love to discuss how our kids takes comfort in what we say” and trust me, you are dividing them with such attitude.
When it comes to education and learning, you really need to know how your parent stands, what does your dad thinks about you showing your mum all your assignments, how does he feel when you discuss educational things with your mum but you always come to him to ask for cash to get those educational stuff. Everyone loves to be valued, so you could be causing drifts between your parents with some attitude you think is intangible, You have to try do things equally. I will love to advice that if you can’t do it equally, maybe you should remove it from your list.
4. Choosing a life partner.
Most grown up kids has caused a lot of issues which has lead to marriages of many years being a shatter, when choosing a life partner, the best thing to do is not saying “daddy I love to marry this guy because mum feels he is good, or mummy I love to marry this guy because he is Yoruba and Daddy said Yoruba men are good”
Your statement should be, I want to marry this man because I want him!
When you give your parents those flimsy excuses of what mum or dad thinks, you are insulting the other person’s thought, and you really do not know how far that might affect their marriage.
It is very normal for anyone to dislike his kids loving the other partner more than himself or herself.
5. Don’t show interest on one person’s background than the other.
A lot of us young people have more faults when it comes to this part, while I was growing up I took so much interest in my dad’s background, he was a young little boy who had to source for everything himself, and he made it. That success story always got me. Most of us are like myself, we get so engrossed in one person’s background that we end up forgetting that we have two parents. Have you ever met people and they often say my dad this, my dad that… Then you wonder what happened or their mum, or vice versa. The thing is, we as kids whether grown up, or still growing should know hat our parents should be our priority , not one of them should be our priority.
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