In the world we live now; almost all ladies are taken while all guys are single. double dating and promiscuous relationship has become the order of the day. A lot of things are not falling into places, because we are not using the right method to solve the right problems, people are dying due to this.
Being single in Africa is like being a lost child whose parent left to suffer intentionally. LOL, I will be discussing five crucial mistakes most ladies made while they were single; a lot of ladies are still making that same mistakes while some of them are in the process of making it, most men have ruined their home due to all this mistakes also and many more divorce will occur due to this, so why can’t we just write something about it.
1. Keep too many friends
This majorly works against ladies ; few days ago a friend of told me an old friend pop up her on whatsapp message and said ”hello” and she was surprised he still remembered her and she said ”oh!you still remember me? he replied by saying ” I do of course how could I have forgotten someone I dated” she said was like we did? just imagine! if I was to give her my sincere advice when she told me this gist; sometimes it takes a little event from the past to ruin a greatly planned future. The point is not that ladies should not keep keep males friends; the point is it should be done at a minimum level, because some ladies always go too far and the best thing about reality is ” it always sit there waiting for the next minutes to intimate you with the fact that you can not escape it” it is called reality .
2. Too many friends with benefits.
One interesting thing about having friends with benefits is they always make you feel you don’t have to be responsible for something , for example I once had a friend in my two hundred level whose girlfriend would go to his place during the weekend to cook and do his laundry; I had a very tiring conversation with him because he is like a brother to me and his reply was ” see… this lady makes me feel less responsible to take care of all those responsibilities”. I know she might feel all she was doing was make him try to love her but she was making him less responsible by giving him benefits which he ought to have gotten from someone he loves by being serious, competent and responsible.
3. Giving friends too much of your time.
Most people feels chatting with another person all days means love and being flexible, well… let me be sincere with you! chatting or calling someone all day means you are jobless and wasting your time on something that might make those people know you can’t be in their lives for a long period of time. sometimes I wonder what the world is turning into, ladies and guys would rather stay awake having meaningless discussion that does not add values to their lives and as a result of those period wasted on unnecessary thing, they end up not having anything tangible to give back to live. People with standard recognise that when you love them you give them out of your time and the most interesting thing is you will be in a relationship with them and still be single , because their standard is too high for crap.
4. Detaching from your dreams easily.
I don’t know how some people do this, I am just so amazed at how easy they can let of their dreams because they are in love with someone. Let me start by saying no matter how much you love a person , no matter how how hard it is to find someone like them in the world wide world … girl, boy; it is no obligation of yours to detach from your dreams because you need to satisfy them. First semester in my three hundred level; I started falling in love with a friend and the friendship was getting cuter by the day but I noticed he had a problem with me because I was on low-cut and damn me, I love me just the way I was… I just moved on because T.D.Jakes has told me in ”daddy loves his girls” that it is never part of my work to make anyone to love me. My fiancee sure does love me and times without counts I have wondered and said to myself, ” you do not deserve this cute , handsome, hardowrking and caring man, but I got him”.
5. You love everyone.
You can’t really love everyone just as the way you can’t really hate everyone, the moment you start doing any of those … you are a dead man” I really can not figure out who said those words but I also can prove it that you can not. Some ladies loves all kind of guys that comes their way and so do some guys, they have problem; though most of them do not see it as problem yet , they will get married and start having issues with running into different men and women everyday and because they can not excuse themselves from being specific about what they love, they end up losing what is best for them.
In case you know about any core mistakes you feel people are making while they are still single please do not hesitate to drop it in the comment box, thanks for reading.
Written by: Temi Badmus