Yes, it is part of the process. You just gotta accept people for who they are and move on! We all have one or two toxic family members
1. Argue less
Stop making excuses for your absolutely useless brother, and your Ain’t shit sister and you will live a calmer, Zen life. Acceptance is key, don’t argue with me because I don’t make the rules.
If we’re being honest-see what I did there? Most toxic behavior goes unchecked because we are scared of being honest. Learn to find your voice especially if your family dynamic is complicated. If something does not sit well with you, speak out, be assertive. Don’t go around flipping tables and pinching babies though.
3. Put yourself first
No one is saying be Cruella De Ville, okay, but we are. For good reason too! Be a mean bitch with your emotions, time, space and money. Handle your business first kabla uchekwe Mother Teresa!
4 Learn to walk away
Sometimes you gotta abandon ship. You are a young woman in your prime; you are a lover, a mother, a friend who is like a sister. We have families who are more than blood. That dead beat dad who keeps popping up when he needs something? Snip snip!
And sometimes you need to walk away from people without feeling bad when it comes to your happiness.
5. Learn not to care too much
Most of the problems we have in life occurs because we feel we are entitle to people or they are entitle to us, but the truth is nobody is entitle to anyone, so stop making yourself a subordinate to anyone or anyone to you.
You need to be able to move on when you want to, with that you own no one nothing and no one owns you nothing. But if they do, be grateful and if they don’t, dude! You need to move on.
It’s 2019 and the only energy we are allowing around us is positive energy, please and thank you! Learn to prioritize yourself over energy vampires that want to use and abuse you.